Ellington

A huge debate is raging within my inner circle. We're usually at odds about where to eat out or whose turn it is to drive, but the latest argument is very important to me: Should I receive gifts on Mother's Day?

Because I am still pregnant, some say—actually, everyone but me says—I am not really a mother yet; therefore, I shouldn't expect gifts. I think that I should. I have made it clear that I am expecting some form of appreciation from the people around me. As an expectant mother with a growing belly, long, sleepless nights and plenty of backaches, I believe I have worked hard enough thus far to snag the "Mother" title. And of course, after I give birth, I'll have even more work to do. I'll have to get up for early-morning feedings, provide three meals a day with snacks in between, and I'll be obligated to pace myself throughout the day so that the baby gets a midday nap.

I looked to affirm my inclination with "expert" advice, but I couldn't find any. So, I'll take matters into my own hands and become the expert for other expectant mothers. Here are the reasons pregnant women—especially me—should also be honored on Mother's Day. Consider this: I've already given my child a name. She is her own person now and seems to have her own budding personality. When she is happy, she flutters around like a little butterfly. When she's frustrated, she expresses it with mild temper tantrums—baby kicks and all. She doesn't like peanut butter. Her favorite food is steak, and she enjoys being pampered with massages when she's tense. My little one also likes for me to read her stories. How would I know all of this if I weren't paying attention to her actions and attitude?

We bond. I talk to her about our daily schedule. I have private chats with her about my expectations as a parent. I let her know that I am always going to be here for her no matter what. Just as any mother and child, we share special moments. Every night when I prepare for bed, it seems as if she's doing the same thing. She tosses and turns, but never finds a comfortable spot in her snug little space. I know that our experiences will change drastically once she is born, but it doesn't change the fact that I am, even now, experiencing motherhood.

I am a mother. This little baby depends on me for comfort, support and shelter. I've praised the mothers in my life for providing those things for me. Am I not deserving of recognition because my baby has a few more months before her arrival?

To any of you who have loved ones who are pregnant and you're not quite sure of what to do for them for Mother's Day, trust the expert. It's just rude to exclude pregnant women from Mother's Day celebrations.